Updates on the kids.

The youngest is doing great! He is pursuing his baseball like a mad man. He is aggressive, polite, motivated, intrigued, and he knows how to rally his team. He is getting his homework done on time and doesn't put up a fight with us about doing it. Of course this is only on our weeks. Not sure why his not getting it done at his mom's??? Anyway- we are driving to and from practices and games (45 mins. each way) at least four times a week. He is working SO very hard and it is exciting to see him find more of himself in this sport.

He is adapting to home life much better than he was a year ago. He accepts responsibility for his actions more than he once did. He accepts that he will have to go back into his room to clean again (b/c he didn't do it as well as he could've the first time). He accepts this while we're laughing b/c he knows better. I guess I am amazed that he is adapting to this life so well. It is extremely hard to be accepting of all of the changes divorce and remarriage brings to a child no matter what the time line. But damn this kid.....He tries....He really tries.....(or maybe we've had a great few weeks) Well whatever the reason, he is really amazing and I love him very much. I especially love the way he smells :)

The middle child, she is doing OK. "It" hasn't been out in a while. Although I thought he may have appeared this last week but he never did. She is currently pursuing all of her sports- jumper lessons with a pony, gymnastics, acting and now two new ones have arisen......soccer and running! I am a little concerned b/c we can only do so much. She will have to make a decision about two and choose to follow others at a later date. My main concern is that she is picking a majority of these due to what is "cool" while around her friends and not deciding what she really wants to do. I am hoping that she will have some revelations about herself in the next few up and coming months.

She seems to be handling all of the rules a little better. She really never has a problem with them it's just that she "half-asses" everything! So that she has to be asked to do it again and again and then this is where the conflict arises. We are taking some preventative measures in not allowing it to lead to a conflict area........so far so good.

And then we have the oldest- He is being a little Shit! This last week he missed the bus four times... He said he was sick on Tuesday (he didn't seem like it in the least) H told him, "sorry but you still have to go anyway", he refused. He called my H a "jerk". He came home thirty minutes past curfew (on Thursday). After missing the bus on Friday morning and then lying about it, he was asked to come home right after school. He called my H an "asshole" and then didn't come home. Later he called and said he was staying w/ his mom? He did not come home for the rest of the weekend and he said he stayed with his mom (where he precedes to go where-ever he wants to, when-ever he wants too.) We found out later that he had stayed w/ friends w/ mom's permission. Last night he calls my H to tell him he is really stressed out b/c they are not getting along, and that he wants to stay at M's for a few weeks (oh did I tell you that he has a few concerts that he really wants to go to on our times- that he knows he wont get to go too if he stays with us.) My H told him that that was not alright. He told him he needed to come over when he was scheduled too. Period.
Oh to have consequences.

(This is my favorite part).......Oh did I tell you we bought him a car(older style BMW $2500) a few months ago? He is not able to drive it yet b/c he has not finished driver's ed. And b/c he doesn't have insurance. But the agreement we made with him was that if he stayed out of trouble and maintained good grades it was his. Well he doesn't know this yet but we are selling it!!!!! He will never get to drive it. Not with the attitude he is dishing out!! And the phone that we have provided for him?????? Yeah, we're getting that turned off. He is on his own in regards to these privileges now.

So this is how the kids are.....Me and the Hubby and the dealings w/ the ex....more on that later.