I fell in love with my H's kids a few months after I fell in love with him. It was easy. They are truly amazing people. Loving, kind, generous and affectionate are just a few words to describe them.
In the beginning-
The oldest was more cautious of me. And let me know it. He did not talk much and was very shy. This did not surprise me in the least. I totally got where he was coming from and let him make the pace for our growing relationship. However, after about six months into our relationship I started to ask him if I could hug him? He seemed a little surprised at first, but when I started doing it on a regular basis, I could tell he liked the attention and it made him a bit more happier. And then I started telling him that I loved him. The first time I said it to him he seemed shocked, and embarrassed. I told him that he does not have to tell me back and that if he feels like telling me then and only then can he tell me. But I told him that I really just wanted him to know that I really did love him and that I really like him.
Since then, he has said it back to me a few times, which has totally blown me away..... It is getting a little bit easier.
The younger two, I tell them I love them a little more often that the oldest. And I tell them a few times during the week we have them that I love them. Sometimes they say it back sometimes they don't. It doesn't matter for me to hear it from them. But it is important for me to tell them. I know they love me. And it is extremely difficult for them to tell me, this I get and this I understand. And they know I understand. But the times they do say it back or out of the blue........It melts me. It turn my heart into jello.
So do you tell yours that you love them? How often? Just wondering...
March 30, 2008
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Hi, I really admire you for having the courage to tell your oldest SS that. I wish I could. He is 12 approaching 13 and it just feels too ackward. Like your SS, he, also is/was cautious of me. We have had custody of them for almost 2 years now, and he warmed up a bit, but not a whole lot. I am working on creating a bond with him--which has been difficult. But our whole situation is sooo ackward. I would love if you could stop by my blog at theommydiaries.wordpress.com which will give you more background on my stepmom journey.
~Morocco
Since the kids live with me, I tell them daily, several times a day. For us, it is easier, since they are here full time...
What a cute blog! I do tell my Skids that I love them..every single day. But mine are little I've been with their papa since they were 2 and 3 months. Its been 6 years but I really do love them like they were my own. Even though that's kind of cliche. I really do:-)
Oh yes, I do tell them! I loved them very shortly after we met. The bond was immediate! I tell them all the time. My sd tells us a million times before we end every phone call. It's really cute.
Everytime I see him. I don't get to talk to him everyday but I do see or speak with the Monkey at least 5 days out of 7. He's the best kid!
Great Post!
Yes. Can't say for sure how many times, but I can say with confidence that it's several times per week.
"I fell in love with my H's kids a few months after I fell in love with him. It was easy. They are truly amazing people. Loving, kind, generous and affectionate are just a few words to describe them."
I'm in complete agreement. I tell them I love them all the time, even when I don't like them very much -- which happens occasionally.
I can't imagine my life without them.
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